Today we’re going to talk about something truly useful, but often hidden away – how women can use sex toys. No beating around the bush, just the direct approach.
Do you ever find yourself incredibly tempted by various recommendations, yet also filled with anxiety?
- Will it be awkward to use it for the first time?
- If I buy it at a higher price, am I being ripped off?
- Is becoming addicted to a product considered “bad”?
- How can cleaning be done safely?
Don’t worry, I’ll explain everything clearly to you. From beginner to advanced, it’s all real, clear, and you can follow the instructions.
01. Sex toys are not shameful; they represent your right to pleasure.
First, put yourself in the right mindset: pleasing yourself is perfectly normal.
Sexual desire, like eating and sleeping, is a completely natural bodily function. Whether you are single, dating, married, or in a casual relationship, actively understanding your own body is a sign of maturity.
Sex toy is not “substitution,” nor “shameful,” but rather:
- Makes it easier for you to achieve pleasure
- Helps you relax and reduce stress
- Enhance feelings and connection when interacting with your partner
Girls who use toys are not “promiscuous,” but rather they understand themselves, dare to admit their desires, are powerful, and have a sense of boundaries.
A truly cool girl: She’s not ashamed of her body and takes control of her own happiness.
02. Different ways to play, different kinds of fun: choosing the right way is key.
1) Vibrating egg
Appearance: Small and cute, like a candy egg, available in wired and wireless versions.
How to play: Primarily external stimulation, beginner-friendly. Hold the vibrating egg and gently press it around the clitoris. Turn on the vibration and enjoy the subtle pleasure. Do not insert it into the vagina!
Suitable for:
- The perfect choice for beginners, offering a “back to basics” experience.
- Sisters who dislike in-vitro penetration and prefer exploring external erogenous zones
Purchase recommendations:
- Made of silicone, gentle and non-irritating.
- Enhanced waterproof and silent operation, suitable for use in the bathroom.
- Major brands offer greater safety and reliable after-sales service.
Practical tips:
- Clean before use (75% alcohol or a special cleaner)
- Apply some lubricant for a smoother experience.
- Too much vibration? Start with a low setting and gradually adjust.
2) Clit vibrator (a device for instant orgasm)
Appearance: Small and exquisite, with a “sucking mouth” on the head, it looks like a beauty device.
How to play: Imitate the feeling of oral sex, highly recommended for “Timon believers”! Point the suction head at the clitoris, turn on the device, and enjoy the intense pleasure.
Suitable for:
- Sisters who seek high-intensity, precise stimulation
- Those who are afraid of penetration and prefer fast-paced, high-intensity experiences
Purchase recommendations:
- Multiple adjustable levels to suit different thresholds
- Waterproof and easy to clean
- Brands with good reputations, such as Polly, Satisfyer, and Lelo.
Practical tips:
- Clean before and after use.
- Locate the “bean” accurately, don’t inhale blindly.
- Don’t make it too long to avoid overstimulation.
3) Vibrator / AV wand
Appearance: Large head + handle design, like a microphone or fascia stick.
Features: Strong vibration, wide coverage. Suitable for external use, some models can also be inserted (G-spot stimulation). Beginners should proceed with caution as it can easily cause numbness; suitable for advanced users or couples.
Suitable for:
- For those seeking a “full-body massage” experience
- Experienced users who enjoy deep vibrations
Purchase recommendations:
- Check the weight of the handle; if it’s too heavy, it will tire your hands.
- Multiple adjustable settings, with the lower setting being more beginner-friendly.
- Choose waterproof and quiet models to avoid them becoming unusable.
Practical tips:
- For external use only; proper disinfection is required before penetration.
- Use gentle movements to avoid overstimulation.
- It can also be used as a massager, making it a multi-functional device.
4) Lipstick vibrator (precision bean grinder)
Appearance: It looks like a mascara or lipstick, delicate and discreet.
Gameplay: Extremely precise, point-to-point stimulation of the clitoris. Intensely stimulating, suitable for women seeking high-intensity pleasure.
Suitable for:
- Advanced players who enjoy “forced love,” SM, and fetishism
- High threshold, heavy user of the experience
Purchase recommendations:
- Choose a small, easy-to-grip model with a rounded head.
- Try adjusting the settings; don’t start with the highest setting right away.
Practical tips:
- Apply some lubricant to prevent friction pain.
- Avoid targeting the same spot for too long, as this can easily cause redness and swelling.
5) Realistic penis / Wearable Vibrator (for internal use)
Appearance: Human-like design, with suction cups for fixation.
How to play: Primarily used for penetration (vaginal/anal), while wearable versions allow exploring more positions. Suitable for women with some experience.
Suitable for:
- Has prior experience with penetration, has a higher threshold.
- Advanced players who enjoy exploring diverse experiences
Purchase recommendations:
- Made with TPE and silicone materials, soft and skin-friendly.
- Don’t go for the large size; beginners should choose a small one.
- Waterproofing is a plus.
Practical tips:
- Clean thoroughly before and after use.
- Apply sufficient lubricant to reduce friction.
- Proceed slowly and deliberately; avoid rough handling.
03. Complete Usage Instructions (Just Follow These Steps)
Step 1: Choose your toy and do your homework carefully.
- Read reviews and real-person feedback; don’t be fooled by appearances.
- Check the materials and safety certifications carefully; avoid buying “three-no” products (products without brand, manufacturer information, or production date).
- If you have a sufficient budget, you can choose big brands, but there are also many hidden gems among high-quality domestic products.
Step 2: Cleaning & Lubrication, Safety First
- Wash with a special cleaning agent and running water before and after each use.
- Always use a condom when used internally to maintain hygiene.
- Choose water-soluble lubricants; silicone oils can damage materials.
Step 3: Find your own rhythm and take it slow.
- Beginner’s advice: Start with external use, low setting, and short duration.
- Advanced players: Explore different body parts, gear levels, and combination gameplay.
- Use within your limits; discontinue use immediately if you feel unwell.
Step 4: Post-treatment care and hygiene.
- Allow toys to air dry naturally to prevent dampness and mold.
- Store each toy separately to prevent cross-contamination.
- Regularly check for damage or unusual odors, and replace immediately if any problems are found.
04. Psychological issues are also part of the “user experience”.
| Worry | Solution |
| Afraid of being discovered | Choose a small, discreet model; it’s safest to put in your makeup bag. |
| I was nervous the first time. | Read some light-hearted science articles and don’t put pressure on yourself. |
| Fear of shame | Tell yourself: This is a healthy behavior. |
| Have a partner? | Express your needs openly; it can improve your relationship. |
| What to do if you feel unwell | Discontinue use immediately and seek medical attention if symptoms occur. |
05. Be your own happy little master!
Using Sex toy is not shameful, but rather an expression of self-love. Choosing the right products for yourself and exploring your body safely and hygienically can not only enhance your sense of well-being but also help you understand yourself better.
Remember, sexual health is just as important as mental health. Consume rationally and use products scientifically. Be a brave, sexy, and confident “Timon believer”!
Finally, I wish everyone can find true happiness at their own age. If you have any questions about choosing or using toys, feel free to ask me in the comments section, and let’s chat about “unawkward happiness”!